This is a hard lesson for me and I know I cannot be the only one. I am a planner and I enjoy being in control of situations. The Universe provided another wonderful learning opportunity for me and once again I missed the mark. Recently I had family visit from out of town. We don’t get to see each other very often, maybe once every 2-3 years so it was exciting to have this opportunity to reconnect face to face. Since the last time they had visited I had purchased my own home, an accomplishment that I am immensely proud of as it had been something I worked very long and hard to achieve. In my nice tidy little box I had decided how it was going to play out when they came to see us at the house. They were going to ask for a tour, appreciate all of the little decorative details, comment on my bountiful rose garden, explore our hallway of pictures sharing memories, appreciate my design aesthetic and join me in my pride of what I had accomplished. The experience did not go “my way”, what I “knew” would happen did not even come close to reality. They arrived came straight to the dining room, took a seat and did not venture from that spot until they left. They never mentioned the house, my roses or seemed to even take notice of their surroundings. I fell into the same faulty pattern of My Way or the Highway and allowed this to taint the rest of the evening. I robbed myself of truly embracing and appreciating spending time with them, of interacting and rebuilding connections and just enjoying being with family. I was present and I participated and loved on people but there was this underscore of disappointment and resentment because the experience did not live up to my expectations. I did not allow myself to embrace the moment because I was so focused on what did not happen.
The Universe loves to provide opportunities for us to learn our lessons, if you are stubborn like I can be sometimes those opportunities get less subtle and more like a steam roller until I finally take notice and make changes. So here’s hoping that this can be a subtle reminder for those that need it and save someone from a future 2 X 4 to the face.